A Millennial’s Guide to Turning 30

For all my late 80’s babies out there, this one’s for you. Turning 30 isn’t easy to grasp as millennial. How exactly do you cope with being alive for 30 years and still feeling like maybe you haven’t accomplished all you set out to yet? Well, I’ve recently been there and I have some advice. Here is a millennial’s guide to turning 30!

A Millennial's Guide to Turning 30

Yes, it sucks turning 30

Turning 30 is a day of mourning for yourself. I didn’t even bother taking the day off work. Instead, I treated myself to Starbucks, got in to work early, put on my headphones, and listened to Drake on repeat all day. If anything, turning 30 is all mental. So be prepared! But, also don’t feel bad wallowing in your sorrows for a bit. There’s nothing wrong with that.

You do not need a ‘before 30’ bucket list

A bucket list can be fun and done with good intentions, but it’s not a race. You may make yourself feel even more disappointed if you cannot accomplish everything on your list. And lists are total crap. You don’t have to do anything before 30 (you can literally live a pants-less life in front of Netflix if you want to)! Life events happen for people at different times, and creating a bucket list just makes you anxious about ticking things off. Relax, and let life happen.

Your skin is about to change

Bring on the retinol and anti-aging creams! 30 is the year where it’s suggested you start using retinol. Not only should this be a starting point, but for the love of god, please use sunscreen (hopefully you’ve been using it your whole life). My skin slowly started to change in the last few years, from oily to very dry. So be on the lookout for changes in your skin! Isn’t 30 great?

A Millennial's Guide to Turning 30

Traveling is totally different

You’ll pay more for nicer hotels and better flights. When you hit 30, nothing sounds as unappealing as a 25-hour flight with two layovers, no matter the cost. And those hostels you once stayed in? No way. Traveling is now your vacation from everyone and everything, and five-star hotels and easy flights begin to sound better and better.

Your wardrobe will change (if it hasn’t started to already)

I don’t remember the last time I shopped at Forever 21, if not to find my semi-promiscuous Halloween costume. Which, even then, is in my past. Turning 30 means more expensive and timeless pieces. Though I still love a good fash fashion brand (looking at you TopShop) I find that with age comes a little more expensive and practical taste. That doesn’t mean your wardrobe has to be boring! I personally am loving my style more than ever. Sorry, wallet.

No f*cks will be given

It’s time for us to embrace the no f*cks given attitude, because it’s finally here and totally acceptable at 30. Literally, no one bats an eye at your chipped nail polish or makeup-free face, and if they do, it’s called mean mugging for a reason. I mean, you’ve been alive for 30 years!! You deserve a break and 30 is finally here so you can tell people who judge you to f-off. There’s literally no other point to turning 30.

A Millennial's Guide to Turning 30

Some people really do have their shit together by 30

Remember when I said it’s totally fine to wallow in your sorrows on the day of your 30th birthday? Well, some people do not actually do this. I know, it’s hard to grasp. But some people really do have their life together by 30. To them, it’s just another day to celebrate! I had a few people tell me I was making too big a deal out of the 3-0, but those people also had every aspect of their life in order. To each their own! Be supportive of your friends and just go with it.

Don’t compare your 30 years to someone else’s

That leads me to my next point: don’t compare yourself! Some millennials have it all figured out, and some are just trying to figure out what country they want to visit next (cough cough). Everyone is different. Whether you’re turning 30 and already have kids, or are busy tending to your food baby, everyone’s life journey is full of different experiences. Never compare yourself to someone else’s unique journey.

So, that being said, how do we feel about turning 30? Excited? Sad? Happy? Leave your comments below!





  1. Haha so many parts of this made me laugh. Ben turned 30 last year and I’m celebrating mine this year! And honestly, I am totally on the page of zero f*cks to be found. I used to think 30 was so old, and now that makes me laugh. Now, 30 means more financial freedom, better health, more kick ass vacations, and more leg room on that 24 hour flight.
    Here’s to 30 lady!

    Susie | http://milehighdreamers.com

    1. Woot! Yay for 30! And I definitely agree with all the things you’ve listed. 30 is definitely great, even if I cry about it first. Haha.

  2. This is so timely! Well I’m turning 29 this year, but I’m really just a step away from being 30. I agree on all these points especially the one about not comparing your 30 years to someone else’s. Each of us has his/her own journey. It’s just mad to want to have the same life experiences with someone else. Our own journey is beautiful and wonderful in its own way. We all have our own sets of friends, family, relationships, and challenges, tailor-fitted to who we are. We all need to learn how to appreciate what we already have and what we can control. ๐Ÿ™‚


    1. Thanks Gellie! It’s definitely not controllable, and we just have to go with the flow. Still convinced I don’t ever want to turn 30 again though!! Haha.

  3. I love this post!! So well written, especially the no f*cks will be given part… this exactly how I feel as I get closer to 30 (later this year). Thanks for sharing your experience!!

    1. I agree. It is a state of mind, but that definitely doesn’t change the little panic that you get haha. It’s so annoying to feel that way! #life

  4. I dreaded, fucking dreaded turning 30. I thought it was the end of my life, that’s it, I’m official old. I wasn’t in a bad place though, I had a great job, already owned my apartment for 3 years but I was comparing myself to all my other friends who were in relationships and were getting married. Looking back it was stupid and foolish and now I am looking forward turning 40 next year!

    ShireenโŽœReflection of Sanity

    1. Such sound advice Shireen! I totally got the same feeling, but I’m realizing that it’s not so bad. I hope to be excited to turn 40! ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. I think society puts so much pressure on a person’s 30’s and turning 30 in general and this notion that you have to have your life together by then or else. It makes the situation all the more overwhelming. But Every 30 + year old I know once they pass that hurdle they end up enjoying it much more.


    1. Honestly, I felt no pressure from society. A few people have said this and maybe it’s true, but I more feel the pressure within myself. I think when you’re younger you sort of picture where your life might be, and if it isn’t that it might seem a little heartbreaking. Other than that, really it’s just the fact that we’re all mortal and time is ticking away. I constantly wonder if I’m spending my time wisely, if that makes sense!

  6. Turned 30 many years ago where I also dreaded when I hit that age when I was more than the last date of the calendar. After that you I was thankful I was not forty or fifty yet hehe. Life is full of surprises, I was so busy with kids and work and I didn’t expect I could start and maintain a blog and went to US with the boys. So I just live it one day at a time and be thankful of being healthy and alive. I find your sentiments really fun with good humour, I guess one advantage of hitting 30 hehe.


  7. Love this post! And I think a lot of it can hold true whether you’re turning 30 or not. I’m 23 now, but the biggest lesson I’ve been learning is what you touch on here: don’t compare your journey to someone else’s, and there is no reason to try and stick to some made up timeline of things you “should” be doing. Thanks for sharing, Emily.

    Kathryn โ€ข simplykk.com

  8. I’m turning 30 in a month so this was a much needed post for me! At first I was freaking out, but the closer I get to the big 3-0, the more I’m ok and even looking forward to it. For one I feel like I’m at a point in my life where I can afford to treat myself to the nicer clothes and vacations, and I appreciate that. Another is that I find myself relating more to those in their 30’s than early 20’s The only thing I’m not too thrilled about is the changes in my skin so we’ll see how long I can delay the inevitable!

    Jenny | Geeky Posh

    1. Haha I totally get what you’re saying! Yes to all the wonderful ’30’ things you’ve listed. I still had a mini freakout the day of, and was in denial. But there are definitely things to look forward to!

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